On Whiteness by Ibram X. Kendi

From page 38, How to be an Antiracist.

Update Added: October 11th 2026

“I cannot believe she wanted nothing but her family/Roy!?” (Female voice in my cues). For this person, the antiracist stance to get to is “I cannot believe that people can have different values than me. And that is a wonderful expression of human diversity. I have learnt something new from interacting with Mansi.”

“It is abnormal for her to yell like that” (Male voice in my cues)”. For this person, the antiracist stance to get to is “I wonder why is she yelling? What is happening inside her?……………with positive curiosity and understanding………..Oh my! I now know that people who have trauma need to yell and use sound to release that pain……I can empathize with that.”

“I want to give you a brain injury so bad….because you broke the signal.” (I.e are intelligent in a specific way). For this person, the antiracist stance to get to is “Wow, women, especially brown women can be as or if not more intelligent than me, and thats wonderful! Who knew! Haha!, I wonder what I could learn from her and pay her for it.”

“I only shag 25 yr olds, once they turn 25, I kill!” For this person, the antiracist stance to get to is make peace with life imprisonment or death penalty.

“What?! I am going to be like an ‘ordinary kedi’ now”. For this person, the antiracist stance to get to is his supremacy is going to be seen the world over with derision.