When society teaches boys to feel safe by finishing, we fail them in becoming men.

Most men don’t know how to self-regulate. They have mislearnt to feel safe by feeling good. The synapse of this choice/impulse (“I am scared” to “I want her”) is hardened with repetition enough for it to seem natural, and the way a man is wired! The underlying physiological need for safety becomes invisible to his own felt sense. And he never experiences true pleasure nor physiological safety.

A man who has mislearnt is insecure enegetically, and will not be able to succeed with a secure woman. His pursuit will not feel welcome naturally, even if he has societal markers of desirability - money, fame, good looks, charm, good bullshit, etc.

The elders, media, and culture are all failing men and therefore all the children they father.