Kindness as a way of being can be a survival strategy
For having merging as a symptom of complex trauma. Fawn response is the naturalness of the feminine principle in threat. When not in threat, it is genuine compassion. It is Kindness.
This does not mean softness is broken, but more a super power which when polarized by the most congruent and clear boundaries, makes us the leaders without colluding with the degenerative aspects of consensus reality.