I cannot be free from the impact of your choice until you heal.

This is the painful truth of being interdependent in design but operating with individuality mindset. The lack of this understanding is also why anyone will call you hysterical and crazy.

The mutuality of shared experiences and choices within relating is driven by a natural process of emotional metabolism that happens in tandem (or not if someone I am relating to does not feel and allow processing to happen within). It is not so much about being available to talk but being in a parallel process of emotional metabolism that frees us.

The power is in doing the work in here (inside ourselves) until the flow of life flushes the metabolism out of the other person (even without choice if needed.)

Life upholds interdependence because it is the design, not a moral or religious value to be upheld by any body of power.