Blaming is a sign of disembodiment/disregualtion.

Below is an excerpt from a rough draft of a book “Emotional Metabolism” I was writing Apr 4, 2020.

Unleashing power by transforming blame and guilt with responsibility

Blame and guilt are the same unbalanced energetic emotions one outwardly directed while the other internally. They both get triggered by the past or narratives of the past that get triggered in the present. Both have a sharpness associated with them and tend to have a punitive tone - mostly one that gets internalized and while the other gets projected externally. Whenever we feel these emotions, they are a very potent opportunity to realize that we are giving away our power. Either giving away our internal power of responsibility or giving away power externally by holding someone else responsible for own state. Once we are seated in our power, we are unmoved into states of blame and guilt too much even when external and internal situations incite them. And even if we do that at any point, we come back to our center by evoking what we are responsible for in the now and what we can do in the present from a place of power. 

Note: self disempowerment/oppression is the most deteriorated state of the unbalanced energies of blame and guilt when left unchecked and unresolved over a long time. 

Reflection Questions: 

• Where am I placing the responsibility of the punitive emotions I am feeling? 

• What shifts if I reverse the orientation of who I am holding responsible? 

• How might I unleash my power in this situation? What does a small step of responsible power look like for me?

• How can I take responsibility to empower myself in my thoughts, words, and actions?

Now read this again: Unleashing power by transforming blame and guilt with responsibility. What if anything opens up for you? What space is created in your mind? How can you let that space stay with you for the rest of your day? The rest of your week?