The lack of repair is what breaks down a connection.

Men do not understand when repair is needed in a connection. And how to bring it about.

They also see themselves naturally as the leader and follow their ‘I want and I need’.

This creates the coregulation gap. The felt sense in women of the lack of support from partners.

If more men leaned into understanding when repair is needed and why, and how to bring it relationships become more stable. Which is what they instrinsically want and so do the people relating to them.